Being Yourself

When I think of being myself, I think of when I was a child. It was such a care free time. No worries, no insecurities, no sleepless nights. The innocence that exists in children, is priceless. As we grow older, peer pressure becomes an issue. We develop most of our insecurities during this time. Being a teenager and trying to be yourself is an oxymoron . It is almost an impossible thing to accomplish. If you do not follow, you are an outcast. If you do, that creates other repercussions. Most teenagers don't realize that they have a mind of their own, to make decisions. If this thought was present when we are teens, we would have a fighting chance. Girls are the meanest at this age. The girls in high school were nasty when I was a teen, but today it is something even more scary. One of my daughters made it out of high school, mostly unscathed. The other did not. It was a mess. Everyday she was sad or hurt by someone. Day after day, for four years this lasted. It did not matter how she dressed, or how she acted, it just never ended. Unfortunately, this followed her through college.

Girls are put under so much pressure in today's society. There are television commercials that show these beautiful models, in beautiful clothes, with beautiful guys. The Media puts so much pressure on the way we look, or talk, or act, that a girl hardly has a chance to really be who she is. It is hard for girls that don't have a perfect 10 body, to even try to have any self-esteem. Confidence is broken down every time we are made fun of for not wearing the right clothes, or not being the most popular. It isn't a wonder why we have so many self-esteem issues as young girls.

I saw this talk show the other day, where models were actually mad because a magazine had taken parts of many models, and made them into a fake model for clothes. Even the models were outraged because this 'model' was a state of perfection that even for them was unattainable. Can you imagine that we have all been trying to live up to something 'fake'? This is where girls start learning how they should look, very scary, isn't it? If only there was a way to do away with the fake models, and bring real girls, with real looks onto the runway. Maybe then girls would have a chance to be themselves from a young age, instead of always trying to be someone you are not.

Girls play games, and they are ruthless at it. If they want you guy, they do what ever they have to, to make him hers. It doesn't always work to their benefit, but it will make your life miserable while they play. If they are jealous of you, they start rumors. Fighting this is impossible. If I had known then what I know today, it would have been different. It has taken me a long time to figure why girls do what they do. Most of it is from some kind of insecurity. Insecurities arise when we stop being ourselves. Once you stray from who you really are, it's over. You are on your way to fake, fake, fake. This is where we all have a choice to be who we really are. What does it matter what others think? Do others live your life, do they make your decisions for you? No, so why do you care what they think?

Being yourself is the only way to be. When you become someone else, you forget who you are. You also forget what it is you really wanted from life. I am free to be me. Try it!