Have Courage and Be Brave

 

INTRODUCTION

 

I decided to write a book about myself and how I survived through 56 years of not always making the right decisions. In doing so, I have learned that I was an instinctive survivor, and that most women are. We forget that, because we have so many roles to play in today’s world. We are providers, mothers, housekeepers, daughters, and have so many issues to deal with on a daily basis. We see everyday in the news how we are supposed to look a certain way, and act a certain way. It is overwhelming to try and figure out who we are supposed to be for ourselves. I learned the hard way, all the way. Hopefully this will help someone avoid some of the more serious mistakes that I have learned. Especially when it comes to men and other relationships.

 

For many years, it was easier for me to just suppress and bury all of the things in my life that I was displeased or unhappy with. That worked for a really long time and then my brain had too much information to function like I wanted to. When you have luggage in your head that you have not dealt with, it plays out in interesting and sometimes terrible ways. In the long run, we are the losers when we keep it inside for too long.

 

            I have had many ups and downs in my life, things that even I thought I would not be able to get through or out of. It has taken me awhile to realize that all the things I did not deal with inside need to be dealt with. Running and hiding from it does not help, it gets worse because your fears start playing out in your real life.

 

My parents raised me with love, religion, good scruples, and a lot of strength to get through life. I was one of the lucky ones to have enjoyed a very normal and fun childhood. I was the oldest of six children. My parents are still together after 57 years of marriage. The reason that I ended up in bad situations or with the wrong people, was mostly because I would go against my gut instincts.

                                                      

            I hope that this book helps at least one young girl to realize that she can get through life by believing in herself always, through thick and thin. I think women second guess their decisions way too much.  Knowing this and using our instincts are the first steps in the right direction of self-survival and self-preservation. These are two very important traits that women need in today's world.